He's not your boyfriend, just the person you call whenever you have a problem, the friend you hang out with all the time, and ring tone that brings joy to your heart. But your just friends? Don't play yourself, this is your other man and you know it! Your man hates him and you swear he is straight tripping! But is he? Should he not envy the man that occupies your time, and does 65% of what HE does for you? All it takes is that one argument, for you to let home boy round it up to the full 100%.
My dear readers put yourself in the shoes of your loved one and see the comparison. Platonic relationships do not exist and we know it. What they are considered now is Temporary Friendships, and here is why.
A Temporary Friendship is when you have your friend of the opposite sex that you talk to frequently. The attraction is undeniable, but no one has made that leap. The leap can happen during a time of weakness and vulnerability. We all know that we can have friends of the opposite sex, but we also know that if we asked them for one night of the horizontal polka, that rejection isn't going to happen.
Now I know some of you don't believe what I'm saying because you have that one friend that you would never screw. Think though, is that friend possibly married, dating your best friend, your cousin, or gay? If you answered yes to any of those possibilities, than the reason you won't screw them is because you can't, but if they didn't meet those characteristics then you probably would, right? If you have a special someone but also have that sexy friend you must keep distance, take this advice:
1) Don't relay any information to that friend about issues in your own relationship, turn to God, to Dr. Phil, Turn to me, just not to that friend. They may use that weak moment to dog out your loved one and dive in for that vulnerable moment.
2) Make sure your companion knows their place in your life. Reassurance never hurts anyone. Let them know that they are very important to you and that it doesn't matter what anyone else says or does, they are one in a million (oh yeah, you have to mean it!)
3) If you see the friendship is causing issues with your mate, try introducing the two. That is, if your 100% that there is no attraction. If there is, than that will cause a fire and you need to weigh your options. Whether you like it or not, you can't have both in your life.
The answer to this problem is basic common sense. You know where each relationship stands, so be honest with everyone involved because it will eventually become obvious. Also, be considerate of the feelings of those involved at all times; don't burn bridges, just separate where people stand in your life.
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